A dream on hold?
Interrupted? Dashed? I don't know just yet.
All my life I've always wanted to adopt a child, or children, never really mattered how many, or what age. But I'm a firm believer in a 2 parent household. As I got older I decided that if I didn't have kids of my own, I'd adopt, but if I felt I was getting too old to have kids and if I was single, I'd become a foster parent. Because I can love ANY kid, and whatever I can give them is better than what they were dealing with, you know?
I had kind of put the age of 35 as my baby-makin' cutoff date, and the more I thought about it, it seemed a good time to start fostering. I'd had a false start a few years ago, but things are much more stable now and I really feel the time is much better. So I did my research, called the right people, and went to my first informational meeting this last Tuesday.
I can definitely do this. My only problem is that they require you to have 'backup' people. A person (or preferrably people) who are willing to come to your house and take care of the child if you aren't able to. Say you have an emergency or have to travel. This person/people have to come to one of the educational sessions with you, the one on discipline, and be willing to stay in your house with the child. Because your house is the one approved by DSS. If they took the child to their house, they'd have to become foster approved. That's a bit of a problem. Because my mom definitely won't want to come here each time I have to go out of town for work. My friends, who would definitely be willing to take care of a child, all have kids or live too far for them to stay HERE each time I go away. And I can't ask Peg and Jerry to do it, they already do so much for me just watching the dudes at a moments notice. BIG FUCKING WRENCH. Now what? They say that sometimes in the course of the foster parent classes you meet some people there who you can arrange to become eachothers backups. But I don't want to go jumping through all of the required hoops and taking all of the classes and getting my hopes up just to find that I can't find ANYONE AT ALL.
So freakin' disappointed. All I want is a kid that I can give some love and hope to.
All my life I've always wanted to adopt a child, or children, never really mattered how many, or what age. But I'm a firm believer in a 2 parent household. As I got older I decided that if I didn't have kids of my own, I'd adopt, but if I felt I was getting too old to have kids and if I was single, I'd become a foster parent. Because I can love ANY kid, and whatever I can give them is better than what they were dealing with, you know?
I had kind of put the age of 35 as my baby-makin' cutoff date, and the more I thought about it, it seemed a good time to start fostering. I'd had a false start a few years ago, but things are much more stable now and I really feel the time is much better. So I did my research, called the right people, and went to my first informational meeting this last Tuesday.
I can definitely do this. My only problem is that they require you to have 'backup' people. A person (or preferrably people) who are willing to come to your house and take care of the child if you aren't able to. Say you have an emergency or have to travel. This person/people have to come to one of the educational sessions with you, the one on discipline, and be willing to stay in your house with the child. Because your house is the one approved by DSS. If they took the child to their house, they'd have to become foster approved. That's a bit of a problem. Because my mom definitely won't want to come here each time I have to go out of town for work. My friends, who would definitely be willing to take care of a child, all have kids or live too far for them to stay HERE each time I go away. And I can't ask Peg and Jerry to do it, they already do so much for me just watching the dudes at a moments notice. BIG FUCKING WRENCH. Now what? They say that sometimes in the course of the foster parent classes you meet some people there who you can arrange to become eachothers backups. But I don't want to go jumping through all of the required hoops and taking all of the classes and getting my hopes up just to find that I can't find ANYONE AT ALL.
So freakin' disappointed. All I want is a kid that I can give some love and hope to.
Wow, that's really a shame , I hope something will work out. Too bad they make it so difficult, altho I suppose I can understand the reasons why. There are so many kids out there that need some help though.....
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Hang in there. You'll figure something out, I know you will. Don't lose hope.
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i say go to the classes. things have a way of working out. they really do. i bet there are other people out there in the same boat as you. don't give up!
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